Jun 28 2009
Blurt: Don’t Be Embarrassed, i luv u
We all have those little flaws that we do not like about ourselves. We go through those little times when we are embarrassed for being awkward, slow, clumsy, pimple faced, passing gas, losing our swimsuit, or just falling flat on our face. We think our nose is too big, our hair is a mess, our feet are like skis, our eyebrows too bushy, our ears are like elephants, or our anatomy is too small. We are ugly, fat, skinny, stumpy, plump, geeky, freaky, bean polls, bald, hairy, too white, too black, too ethnic, too pretty, fake, dopey, grumpy, too old, too young, sloppy, preppy, smelly, talkative, quiet, shy, aggressive, muscle bound, smart, dumb, snaggled toothed creatures that walk this earth. The list goes on and on.
We are all different and all have those things that we do not like about ourselves. So, why do we get embarrassed? Why do we put ourselves down? Why do we worry about what other people think of us? Our family, friends and loved ones care and love us for who we are. They may be concerned about our health. They may be concerned about our feelings. But no matter our faults, the ones that love us do so without concern of these flaws. They see our inner beauty. The ones that ridicule us and put us down because of these flaws are not our friends, so why do we care?
Life is just too short. I am fat. No, I am beyond fat, I am gigantic. I am one of the pear people. Because of my weight I am put down, looked down upon, called lazy, discriminated against, laughed at, stared at, called names, and I am the butt of many jokes. For a long time I would keep out of the public’s eye so I did not have to endure this ridicule. I would avoid swimming and going to the beach. When I did go I would wear a T-shirt into the water so people would not see my belly. I avoided many events and social occasions. I went to an amusement park and could not fit into some of the rides that I loved. I felt bad about myself and this led to further overeating and overindulgence. I would try to diet but felt so bad about myself I did not believe that I could succeed. Weight loss for me was just not possible. I had stopped living life. I merely existed, an empty shell of a man.
What turned me around? How have I been able to achieve weight loss? How have I been meeting my goals? I stopped being embarrassed. I stop worrying about what everyone else thought of me. I started caring about myself. I realized that if I did not change, I would stop living. I do matter. My family and friends love me. God loves me. Even in all my trials and tribulations, He has stood there beside me and provided for me. They never gave up on me, even though at times I had given up on myself. I started to realize that I was missing out on a lot of fun things. I decided to live.
Now, I am motivated. I realize that I can do it. When I go swimming or outside and I am not wearing a shirt, I do not care. I am comfortable. I am not going to get in the pool and have that shirt sticking to me. I am going to go out in the sun and not be overheated. I am going to sit on my balcony and watch the world go by without worrying about what other people may be thinking of me as they pass by. I am going to live my life for me. I know I need to continue to seek my weight loss for me, not other people. If my hair is too grey and unkempt, if I waddle like a duck, if I pass gas in a crowd, if I turn bald, and grow a wart on my nose, I am going to go out and enjoy life. I am not going to be embarrassed. The people that matter to me and love me do not care about my faults. They love me. They see my inner beauty. The other people out there, who cares? That is their problem. If they want to stare and point, let them. I love myself now. I am on my way to living a healthier lifestyle and achieving the weight loss I desire. I care about you. If you need someone to talk with, feel free to contact me. Please leave a comment below and share how you overcame embarrassment and ridicule or leave a childhood memory of embarrassment in your life. Thank you and God Bless.
“Don’t worry about what people think; they don’t do it very often.” - Anonymous
Thanks for your kind words. I am glad you that you have a place where you feel comfortable with who you are. I am trying not to care what other people but for some reason I care about it. Its a daily mission of mine to focus on what God thinks and that is all!!! Hope you have a blessed day!!
Carebear198483
http://christianweightloss.today.com/
Dear Carebear,
I know it is hard to just ignore those hateful people and the things that they say and the way that they act. They do these things because by putting others down they try to make themselves feel better. They really feel insecure and find no other way for them to boost their self-esteem. I pray for them and hope that they find peace. You should not feel bad about yourself. It is obvious that you have a good soul and I am certain that you are truly beautiful. Stay focused, You can and will do it. I have confidence in you.
God Bless,
Brian, the old man
An interesting blurt.Something that’s easier said than done I believe (not caring what people think) but one which should become easier with practice and as one grows older.Television advertisements,the entertainment industry and the media in general have all played a huge role in all of this I believe.The images of hot and sexy people with chiseled features and perfect bodies bombard us daily anytime we turn on the TV set or pick up a magazine or newspaper.We desire to look like them and feel unattractive and unfit to be loved when we ultimately come up short.I even observe these attitudes in my little nieces, wanting to look like these actresses that appear on the Disney Channel.
As you mentioned,we need to come to a point in our lives where we can accept and love ourselves for who and what we are,flaws and all.Some of the self esteem and body issues that some people face today as adults can often be traced back I believe to their childhood. A negative passing comment from another child at school or a family member can leave an indelible impression that a child may carry around and hold as truth even into their adult life.
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind”
-Dr.Seuss
I agree much of society glamorizes an unrealistic view of the human form. We all come in different shapes and sizes. If you look at the popular dolls for girls, they have the dimensions of a non-existent female. How can a child ever expect to grow up to look like that?
Considering that 62% of the population is overweight, why do we continue to allow ourselves to be put down and feel worthless? Why do we give our children the impression that these are the expected norms? Why do we glamorize the arrogant and laugh at those that are struggling? Do we as a society feel that bad about ourselves that we must put down others to achieve a feeling of self-worth?
I came to realize that people have an inner beauty and that is what is important. I am not lazy because I am fat. I do not need to continue to feel this emptiness and guilt. I have heard many negative comments and it hurts. Enough is enough. I have taken control of my life and my feelings. I have a positive outlook and I will not allow myself to feel this shame. I have nothing to feel bad about. I have excepted my mistake in allowing myself to become unhealthy. It is for this reason that I am on my journey to a happier and healthier lifestyle. It is not because I want the approval of others and to live up to some socially accepted norm.
Thank you for your comments. Dr. Seuss is the greatest! Thanks for that quote, I love it!
God Bless and Take Care,
Brian, the old man
Thanks for your comments Brian.I totally agree with you and good for you that you have taken control of your life.Glad you liked the quote. Live long and prosper !